Becoming One 7-Day Marriage Devotional
Matthew 19:5 “and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Mark 10:8 “and the two shall become one flesh; so they are no longer two, but one flesh.”
Ephesians 5:31 “For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
Meditate on Mark 10:8. The word “one” denotes ONENESS in such a way that others are excluded. Do you always think about your spouse as the same as yourself in your thoughts, your actions, your soul, or in your choices? Ask the Lord to help you see your spouse as a very part of your body as if your spouse equals you. Forget the psychologists who try to call some forms of oneness, codependence. Ask the Lord to strip away all worldly ideas on marriage and make a decision today to be truly one with your mate. Ask the Lord for grace on this journey and make a commitment to discover what He means by becoming one.
Meditate on Genesis 2:24. If you and your spouse are one, there should be no division when it comes to walking out your values. Talk about your thoughts on ethical matters and make sure they align with His Word. Repent for any disunity you have had due to continuing unethical thinking contrary to His Holy Word. Ask Him to help you become truly one.
Look in the mirror. Meditate on James 1:23-25 “For if anyone is a hearer of the word and not a doer, he is like a man who looks at his natural face in a mirror, for once he has looked at himself and gone away, he has immediately forgotten what kind of person he was. But one who looks intently at the perfect law, the law of liberty and abides by it not having become a forgetful hearer but an effectual doer this man will be blessed in what he does.”
Are you seeing yourself as one with your spouse, completely united at the hip? Are you taking the same care of your spouse as yourself or as your own body? Do you want to be a doer of HIs Word? There are no options. You are one flesh! Proceed accordingly! Decide to remember who you are in Christ and who you are pertaining to your spouse every time you look into a mirror.
Meditate on Ephesians 5:31. One also means to be united most closely in will, and spirit; a single, one thing exclusive of the rest; one and the same; primarily one; the same in importance and esteem.
Write a list of things that you seem to be completely one in, as well as, a list of things you are not. Take that list and share it with one another. Decide to decimate the things that divide you, and begin to enhance the things that make you one. If we truly want to follow Christ, is this a choice?
One flesh is our goal only because the Lord commanded this for us. Meditate on Ephesians 5:22-32 “Wives, submit to your own husbands as to the Lord for the husband is head of the wife as also Christ is head of the church and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything. Husbands, love your wives just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her that He might sanctify and cleanse her with washing of water by the word that He might present her to Himself a glorious church not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy without blemish. So, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body of His flesh and His bones. For this reason, a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This is a great mystery but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
How are you aligning with His plan for marriage? Repent for any way you have been dishonoring His Word! Make a list of ways you can help one another restore, reclaim, and recover all the Lord wants for your marriage. Give this the importance His Word demands.
Our flesh can be defined as the part that can be stripped off from the bone; the soft substance of living body which covers the bones and is permeated with blood; animal nature with its cravings which incite our physical nature and can be subject to suffering sin.
How deeply do you see yourself as one flesh? Are you experiencing in your own body your spouse’s sufferings? Are you fighting as if it were you going through whatever the circumstance? If we are truly one flesh, we should find their experiences ours, the same pains, the same hurts, and the same joys! We can also appropriate by faith the extraordinary saving results of the violent death endured by Christ our Savior for one another. Becoming one is becoming inter-dependent, shutting he door on any opposition from the enemy of our souls. If His blood truly permeates us, will we allow Him, the Word become flesh to rule every aspect of our lives?
Meditate on these: “Let thy husband render to the wife due benevolence and likewise also the wife unto the husband. The wife has no power over her own body but the husband, and likewise also the husband has no power of his own body but the wife.” This is found in 1 Corinthians 7: 3-4. “Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge giving honor to the wife as to the weaker vessel and as being heirs together of the grace of God that your prayers be not hindered.” (1 Peter 3:7)
These are profound Scriptures! Are His Words merely suggestions, or are His Words our commands? How are you measuring up to His commandments? Plan together how to bring your marriage in order under His truth. Decree: “We are becoming One!”
Decide to continue this 7-day prayer focus until His Word becomes flesh within. Ask the Lord to give you your own Scriptures to expand on.
“May the God who gives this patience and encouragement help you live in complete harmony with one another as is fitting for followers of Christ Jesus so that with one mind and one voice you may glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ.” Romans 15:6 Amen! He has provided all we need to become one flesh!